Switching Roles: The Night I Found My Inner Domme

Not sure you have what it takes to switch from sub to dom? You might surprise yourself like I did.

Many of us identify as either submissive or dominant, at least in the bedroom. I would definitely consider myself a sub, and generally want my partner to take control of the action. I resisted any reversal of this for a long time, but have learned to enjoy occasionally acting the domme and wielding sexual power over a partner. I even remember the night I first felt the rush of doing just this – the thrill of being in charge, of dictating the pace and intensity, was unlike anything I’d experienced before. It was a powerful and liberating feeling that I’ve come to cherish.

At that time, I was committed to my role as the submissive, and the thought of taking control did not interest me. In one of my more adventurous relationships, we engaged in various role plays where I portrayed a crawling kitty cat, a submissive secretary on the desk, and other similar characters. However, we experimented enough that a natural role reversal eventually occurred.

For my birthday, my partner surprised me with a trip to the local sex shop. We browsed the selection and picked out a few new toys to try, including a ball gag, a vibrator, and some implements for light spanking. While I was usually the one being restrained and pleasured, one night the roles were reversed, and I got to experience the thrill of taking control.

I pulled out the cuffs and placed them on his wrists, threading them through the wrought iron headboard. His eyes widened with anticipation, a mix of excitement and vulnerability that thrilled me. Playfulness washed over me as I watched him lie there, naked and helpless with his hands above his head. The heat between us was charged with tension and desire, blurring the lines of dominance and surrender.

I began a slow strip tease, teasing him with glimpses of my skin as I swayed. Seeing the effect I had on him made me realize how the power exchange deepened our connection. With the cuffs in place, he shifted from observing to fully engaging with the intensity of the moment.

He found himself in a challenging situation. As I displayed my body and moved in a way that excited him, he became very aroused. He wanted to relieve his tension and tried to find some relief against the mattress, but without the use of his hands, he grew frustrated. At that moment, I realized I had a unique sense of satisfaction in my ability to keep him in this state of yearning. He was restrained, and I was in control.

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I moved closer to him on the bed, our bodies finally making contact and creating an electric connection between us. I explored his form with my hands, carefully tracing over each contour and curve, yet skillfully avoiding the most sensitive areas he craved my attention on. The anticipation in the air was palpable. Reaching for some toys from the bedside table, I decided to experiment and used them on him for the very first time. The excitement of the moment was thrilling and new for both of us. While I’d love to share more details of our intimate adventure, I should respect his privacy and allow him to keep some moments just for himself. Let’s just say we ended up in a deeply satisfied, sweaty embrace, giggling and laughing about our playful role reversal, filled with a sense of joy and connection that we both cherished.

“That night was a real eye-opener for me. I had always considered myself a submissive, but when my partner suggested we switch roles, I have to admit I was a bit hesitant. What if I couldn’t pull it off? What if I didn’t enjoy it? But my partner was so encouraging and made it clear there was no pressure – we would just play it by ear and see what happened.

Well, let me tell you, once we got started, I was surprised by how much I actually loved being in the dominant role. It was thrilling to be the one calling the shots for a change, and my partner seemed to really respond to my newfound confidence. We ended up having an incredible time, and it’s made our sex life so much more dynamic and exciting.

So to anyone out there who’s on the fence about switching things up, I say give it a try! Approach it with an open mind and a playful attitude, and you might just discover a whole new side of yourself. You never know until you try!”