Humiliation Play
For many new BDSM enthusiasts, the idea of bondage and submission is often misunderstood as purely physical fantasies. They may see a whip or rope and expect that submitting to their Dom will involve a tangible degree of pain. However, the reality is that BDSM play is rarely centered on the physical realm. In fact, physical manifestations are typically a last resort, used to realign the senses with the responsibilities expected of a submissive.
Humiliation play primarily involves mental and emotional aspects, utilizing social pressures rather than physical items to create a unique form of bondage. For instance, consider being instructed to attend a formal dinner in a cocktail dress that is at least four inches above the knee, without wearing any panties. While this may seem enticing, it lacks the true element of humiliation.
Now instead, imagine at that same dinner, as you approach the table, your heart races with a mix of trepidation and anticipation. Your Dom, seated with a stunningly beautiful woman, introduces her as “someone important.” Before you can even take your seat, the woman produces a tape measure and commands, “Come here, slut. Let me get a measurement on that hem of yours.” Standing beside the table, you feel exposed as she slowly measures the distance from your knee to the hem of your dress, all while the waiters and other diners observe. Some cast lingering glances your way, while others whisper to one another, their expressions filled with disdain.
The lady’s sharp tongue cuts through the air as she declares, ‘3.5 inches at best.’ You stammer, recalling the instructions of a minimum of four inches above the knee. But before you can respond, she interrupts with a cold stare and the word ‘in,’ handing you a set of salt and pepper shakers. As you move to take a seat, she pushes the chair away with her foot, reminding you ‘in’ as if to discourage any further words in her direction.
Left with no easy way to act confused, you close your eyes to hide yourself from the shame of what you are about to do and squat slightly as you guide the first cold crystal shaker into your wet pussy. “The other won’t fit, Madame. I’m quite full,” you whisper at her. “WONT FIT?” She bellows back in a voice loud enough to be heard by the coat check clerk. “You have other holes… make use of yourself. David did say you were worthless but I expected at least some ability to follow basic instructions.”
By now your face is bright red with a mixture of embarrassment and exasperation. Your Dom is starting to chuckle at you and his female friend has a very twisted expression on her face that lets you know your asshole had best be penetrated by a pepper shaker soon or it’s going to be a very long night for you indeed.
This moment between desire and utter consternation is what humiliation play is all about, and for true BDSM submissives, it becomes obvious that any room full of people can quickly become more awe inspiring than the most artful rope bondage or tightest grip on a leather whip!
Also read: How to Become a Submissive
