
5 Kinky Ways to Use a Dildo with Your Lover
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Looking for some fun ideas to incorporate a dildo into your kink play?
There are still far too many men who fail to recognize and appreciate the immense importance of dildos in a woman’s sexual life and overall well-being. While most open-minded individuals—particularly those within the kink or polyamorous communities—fully understand how a dildo serves as a vital component of a woman’s sexuality, as well as a valuable and empowering tool for self-pleasure, there remain a number of men who stubbornly cling to the belief that there is no need to replicate what they perceive themselves as already possessing. This outdated mindset not only undermines women’s autonomy but also dismisses the myriad of ways in which sexual satisfaction and pleasure can be explored and enhanced through the use of various intimate accessories. A true appreciation for sexual diversity and the support of women’s desires can only stem from a broader understanding of sexual health and fulfillment.
Smart men understand that their penis is not in competition with a dildo, and that incorporating penetrative toys into your intimate life can unlock endless possibilities for mutual pleasure. Dildos are not just for solo female masturbation when your partner is absent – there are countless imaginative ways to enjoy them together.
How to Get Kinky with a Dildo
Keep things going when you’re done.
Even if you’ve reached your limit, the fun and excitement of the experience don’t have to stop there. You can continue to engage and keep going until your partner climaxes, which not only allows for a fulfilling experience for them but also gives you a chance to recharge and gather your energy. This is especially beneficial in a threesome situation, where the dynamics can be more complex, and it’s crucial to attend to everyone’s needs. You’ll definitely need that extra stamina to satisfy all the various desires and expectations involved, ensuring that everyone is enjoying themselves to the fullest while maintaining a sense of balance and pleasure for all parties involved.
Indulge the voyeur inside you.
If watching someone get off gets you off, ask her to put on a show for you. I love warming up this way, before getting into the one-on-one because it really heightens arousal. I also love “going all the way” completely hands off—I’ll fuck myself start to finish while you jerk off watching me. Sex usually means touching, so the twist of wanting each other so badly and being so close adds an unexpected dimension—explosive orgasms guaranteed! If you’re the one who loves being watched, penetrating your ass for her pleasure or at her command is so transgressive and hot.
Let her take charge while you play submissive.
Put the dildo securely in a strap-on harness and assume the desired position that feels most comfortable for you. Alternatively, if you’re looking for a more sensual experience, perhaps you’d like me to take my time, being gentle and gradually building up the intensity before fully penetrating you.
It’s important to remember that penetrative sex toys can be enjoyed by anyone, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. They offer a unique way to explore pleasure and intimacy, making them a fantastic addition to any intimate experience.
Experiment with size training.
It’s clear that many people have fantasies about a woman enjoying larger cock. If you consider yourself average, you’ve likely thought about her ability to handle something bigger.
You can explore these fantasies with sex toys, and she may find them pleasurable as well. Start with a variety of sizes, even something as small as your pinky finger. Gradually increasing the size with each toy can lead to her having a more intense experience. Take your time with each new addition, and you might be surprised by her reactions.
Go full tilt with double penetration.
For anal play, consider using a dildo to maintain stimulation to her pussy while focusing on anal penetration. Many women prefer a balanced experience rather than just anal alone. The key to enjoyable anal sex is ensuring her vagina remains stimulated and satisfied.
This approach enhances the experience for both partners, as you can feel the fullness from the dildo while you penetrate her ass—feeling how full she is with the dildo on one side and your cock on the other.
What’s your favorite way to enjoy a dildo with your lover?
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