Femdom Relationships: 8 Examples

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What Is a Femdom Relationship?

Femdom is short for female domination, and femdom relationships are relationships beyond kinky BDSM encounters or casual sex based on domination and submission.

A femdom relationship gives a much broader context to female domination and her submissive male than just a kinky encounter, but encompasses a whole relationship. Femdom relationships are about unique emotional, mental, psychological, spiritual, and physical connections between a dominant female and a submissive male.

Read: Find a Femdom Seeking Submissive Men

8 Types of Femdom Relationships

1. Female-Led Relationship (FLR)

The female-led relationship, often abbreviated to FLR, is just how it sounds. It is a relationship where the female leads. She’s in charge in every way.

Many femdom relationships could be characterized as female-led relationships, as the FLR is a broad umbrella term. Not all FLRs are kinky sexually, but usually the female is dominant and calls the shots in the bedroom, in finances, in decision making, in task delegation, and in every area of the relationship.

Read: Female Led Relationship Levels

2. BDSM Mistress and Slave

When people think of a dominant woman, they often conjure up racy, kinky images of a powerful goddess in spiky heeled black boots and classic femdom wear. She wields a whip and a paddle and her slave has collars and a leash.

This kind of femdom relationship doesn’t always include all these bells and whistles, but they do exist.

Read: How to Be a Good Femdom Slave

3. Professional Dominatrix and Servant

Classic BDSM definitely has fantastic, sexy clothes and paraphernalia, and the dominatrix has a backlog of men in line to serve her.

This kind of relationship is often a professional one because there are more men in need of disciplinary services and fetish play than there are dominant women to go around. Also, not every submissive male is interesting or well rounded enough to make “boyfriend material” status but still has needs to be met.

This is a paid sexual relationship with agreed-upon terms and frequencies of connections. It is a transactional femdom relationship.

Read: How to Find a Dominatrix Near You

4. Cuckold Relationship

Cuckold relationships are non-monogamous relationships where the woman, or cuckoldress, has sexual connections with other men and the cuckold, or male, does not. The cuckold is turned on by her sexual encounters and by the erotic humiliation he experiences.

Cuckolding is frequently a kinky lifestyle rather than a flavor for a sexual encounter, and it is a female-led relationship, but the femdom is not necessarily kinky outside of the cuckoldry itself. (The couple may not be into BDSM.)

Read: Cuckold Fetish: All About Cuckold Kinks

5. Male Chastity Relationship

A male chastity relationship is one where emphasis is placed on male chastity. This involves chastity as a kink and might employ chastity devices such as a male chastity cage, with the female holding literal and figurative lock and key.

Male chastity is also psychological, employing abstinence, denial, and withholding. Many relationships are using male chastity as an intimacy device, not just dominant and submissive relationships, because changing the focus for men frees up tremendous emotional and physical space for intimacy, and restores energy and time.

Read: Male Chastity Play and Cock Locking Devices

In a femdom relationship, a male chastity relationship means the female controls men’s chastity and sexual expression, including partner sex and masturbation. Many men who feel preoccupied with sex find giving the control over to a femdom recharges their sexual battery and their relationship too.

Without the constant release, they can build up intimate and sexual energy, focus on the relationship, on tasks, work, family, and on her sexual pleasure. The sexual tension also has the time and energy to build up and becomes more intense.

Without knowing when she will literally or figuratively unlock him to enjoy sexual touch and release, he becomes more profoundly attached and connected to her, and sex is more intense when it happens.

Read: Orgasm Denial: 8 Games and Ways to Play

6. Findom Relationship

Findom stands for financial domination. A findom relationship is one where a male submissive allows a dominant woman to control his finances. She may demand cash payments, gifts or shopping sprees, or total control over his bank account.

The complete submission in working for a woman can be thrilling for a submissive male. The submissive in a findom relationship is sometimes called a “pay pig” or “human ATM.” Often, the femdom and the submissive have no relationship outside of the findom itself—many are online and haven’t even met.

Many femdom relationships may include financial domination or control, but the findom relationship in and of itself is usually manifest solely on this aspect, and does not involve sexual contact or favors, or companionship.

Read: Findoms and Financial Domination Relationships

7. Mommy Domme Little Boy Relationship (MDLB)

The Mommy Domme Little Boy relationship, or MDLB, is a femdom relationship and a little space kink.

The little kink is about reverting to a stress free space of play and imagination and safety. Mommy dommes are in control and command, but usually not focused on classic BDSM sex and punishments. The relationship is more nurturing and about caretaking.

Read: Gentle Femdom Guide: Painless Female Domination

Mommy calls the shots, but nurtures and takes care of her little boy. Little boy behaves and is rewarded with snuggles, touching, and Mom being pleased.

Mommy usually takes care of everything in the relationship, making decisions and delegating responsibility and taking care of financial choices.

Read: 5 Kinds of Mommy Fetishes and Kinks

8. 24/7 Femdom Relationship

The 24/7 femdom relationship is where the female is in control around the clock. It is not just sexual domination in the bedroom. This relationship will have communicated rules and boundaries, but will entail female control and decision making about sex, finances, how he spends his time, who he spends his time with, and everything else that happens.

This relationship may crossover with some of the other femdom relationships mentioned.

Read: How to Turn Your Girlfriend into a Femdom

Are you in a femdom relationship with a female dominant? Please share!